Step Aside, Officiant!
By J Costello Wedding Officiants
You’ve planned every little detail—from your walk down the aisle to the flowers in your bouquet. But when it comes to your ceremony photos, there’s one tiny tip that makes a huge difference:
Ask your officiant to step aside right before your first kiss.
It might seem like a small detail, but trust us—it makes all the difference in capturing that perfect, just-married moment without someone photobombing from the background.
Why This Matters
Your first kiss as a married couple is one of the most iconic, emotional, and photographed moments of your day. It’s the celebration. The exhale. The “we did it!” moment.
And while your officiant is an important part of your ceremony, they don’t need to be center frame for your kiss. A quick step to the side gives you the clean, beautiful shot that’s worthy of a frame—and your photographer will thank you for the heads-up.
More Than Just the Kiss
At J Costello Officiants, we take this idea a step further. When couples choose to exchange personal vows, we also step to the side then too. It gives you space to connect face-to-face, uninterrupted. And it ensures your photographer can capture the emotion of that moment without someone standing between you or directly behind you.
These little choices—just a step or two in the right direction—can elevate your entire ceremony gallery.
Pro Tip: Add It to Your Rehearsal Notes
Whether you’re practicing your kiss, your recessional dip, or exchanging custom vows, be sure to include your officiant in the plan. A quick note like, “We’ll pause for a kiss right after the pronouncement—please step aside,” is all you need.
We love being part of the moment—but we also know when to get out of the way.
Final Thought
Your ceremony should feel personal, meaningful, and photo-ready—and sometimes, that means a little behind-the-scenes choreography. Whether you’ve hired a professional, or asked a friend/family member to officiate, don’t be afraid to talk to your officiant about where everyone should be during those key moments.
Because when it comes to your first kiss as a married couple, that shot should be all yours.
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J Costello Wedding Officiants
Helping couples create meaningful ceremonies—and stepping aside for the perfect shot
Photo Credit: Rambling Bear Media at The Mansion at Keuka Lake
